愛情的三個(gè)要素：熱情、理解和實(shí)踐。我認(rèn)為應(yīng)該有完整的愛，美麗的愛，這三個(gè)要素。一個(gè)不可缺少。（威廉莎士比亞，哈姆雷特，愛情名言）

The three elements of love:passion,understanding,ac think a complete love ,a beautiful love, it must has these three elements,and they are indispensable.

激情是愛情中最感性的一個(gè)元素，理解則相對來說是一個(gè)比較理性的元素，而踐行，是把感性和理性落到實(shí)處，化為生活的事實(shí)。這三種元素缺一不可，因?yàn)橹挥挟?dāng)感性、理性、生活事實(shí)這三者同時(shí)具備的時(shí)候，你才能說你的愛情是全身心的愛情。

Passion is the most emotinal element in love. Understanding is relatively rational element. Action is the fact that sensibility and rationality are implemented and turn into li three elements are indispensable,because only when sensibility, rationality, life are available at the same time,you just can say your love is full-hearted love

首先什么叫激情？

有這么一個(gè)人，點(diǎn)燃了你的愛意，使你產(chǎn)生了濃濃的興趣和好感，你情不自禁地受到吸引，他的魅力讓你無法抗拒。一看到他你就會心跳臉紅，你移開了你的目光，卻怎么也移不開你的心，這就是激情。

First what is passion?

Such a person that ignites your love and makes you have strong interest and effection,you can not help being attracted,his charm makes you irre you see him, you will be blusting,and when you remove your gaze,but you can not remove you heart, it is passion.

當(dāng)他出現(xiàn)的時(shí)候，空間會發(fā)生凹凸，其他人都只是背景，只有他一個(gè)人凸顯在背景之外。那一刻你只看見了他，聽見了他，其他人或事都恍恍惚惚，因?yàn)槟慊谢秀便?。這就是激情。而當(dāng)你筋疲力盡，什么也不想做，什么也不愿想，什么也不想聽的時(shí)候，你卻還是想見到他，還是很愿意聽到他，他對你來說就是打雞血，你總是額外地為他準(zhǔn)備了一份熱情。這就是激情。

When he appears,the space would be bumpy,everyone else is just a background,Only he is highlighted outside the background.At that you see him, hear him,everyone else or evreything are unclear,it is passion. When you are exhausted, do not want to do anything, do not want to think anymore,do not want to hear anything,you just want to see him,and would like to hear anythig about him,you are cheered up by him,your extra enthusiasm are always prepare for him,this is Passion.

愛情的第二個(gè)元素——理解。

The second element of love is understanding

唯有真知才能帶來真愛。如果你根本不懂我，又憑什么說你愛我？你愛的是糖，但你不知道我其實(shí)是鹽，你老想讓我拼命地變甜，但我的真實(shí)味道其實(shí)是咸；你愛的是空中的飛鳥，但我卻是海中的一條魚，你愛我的方式是要我展翅飛翔，卻不知道我的人生本該是一場深海的悠游。你根本不懂我，憑什么說你愛我？你想讓我成為我所不是的那個(gè)人，你憑什么說你愛我？你有什么權(quán)利用這種方式來愛我？唯有真知才能帶來真愛，如果你不懂我，你愛的真的是我嗎？

Only true knowledge can bring true love. If you don't understand me at all, why do you say that you love me?You love sugar, but you don't know that I am actually salt. You always want me to desperately sweeten,but my true taste is actually salty,you love the birds in the sky, but I am a fish in the sea. The way you love me is to fly in the sky,but you don't know my life is supposed to be swimming in the actually don't understand me,why do you say you love me?you want me to be the one that I don't want to be.Why do you still say you love me? Do you have droit to love me in this way?Only true know can bring true love.If you don't understand me, what do you really love me?

真正的愛，不是強(qiáng)迫你成為我想讓你成為的樣子，而是我用心地讀懂你，然后盡心盡力幫助你成為你自己。真正的愛不是把你變成你所不是的人，而是深刻地了解你，然后讓你做你自己，讓你活成真實(shí)的你.

True love doesn't force you to be what I want you to be,but I read you with my true heart and then try to help you become your love does not mean to turn you into someone you do not want to be,but to understand you deeply,and then let you be yourself and let you live to be true to you.

在你越來越懂他的過程中，其實(shí)還有一件事也在發(fā)生——你會越來越懂你自己。當(dāng)你越來越看清什么使你心動，什么是你的心之所愛，你也就越來越明白自己是個(gè)怎樣的人。你深愛的品質(zhì)，往往就是你渴望成為的自己。

你會發(fā)現(xiàn)，你越來越喜歡那個(gè)和他在一起的你，當(dāng)你不愛任何人，你的心就是空的，空蕩蕩的心是那么孤獨(dú)；當(dāng)你有了他，有了愛，你的心、你的生命就被愛充滿了，你們的存在填補(bǔ)了各自靈魂的饑餓，于是孤獨(dú)感就消散了。

In the process of getting to know him more and more,actually one thing is happen at the same time is that you are getting to know yourself more and more. as you become more and more aware of what makes you heartbeat and what is your heart's love,you become more and more aware of who you are. The quality of you love is always the one you desire to be.you will discover that you more and more like the one who is with you do not love anyone, your heart is empty,the empty heart is loneliness,when you have him,you got a love,your heart and life are full filled with love,your existence fills the soul hunger,so the loneliness is dissipated.

平常當(dāng)我們說到“親密”這個(gè)詞的時(shí)候，總會聯(lián)想到一些身體上的親密——接吻、擁抱、愛撫……其實(shí)除了精神之間互知互懂的親密，哪里還有真正的親密？身體的親密終究不能消除兩個(gè)精神世界之間的墻，而理解是靈魂之間唯一的橋梁，它能溝通兩個(gè)原本互不相關(guān)的存在。當(dāng)電流與電流接通，會帶來驅(qū)散黑暗的燈火通明，在光明中，我們能看清一切；而當(dāng)存在與存在相互連接，它接通的是一個(gè)精神的光源，帶給我們內(nèi)在的光明。在這光明里，你看清了——有人懂你，你也懂他，而透過你對他的懂，你更懂你自己了。當(dāng)一個(gè)人被人懂，當(dāng)一個(gè)人自己懂自己，他就不是孤獨(dú)的。即使他是獨(dú)自一人，他也不孤獨(dú)，因?yàn)橛幸粋€(gè)懂他的人、懂他的心在看不到的地方與他相契，與他同在。

We usually talk about a word:"intimacy". We always think some physical intimacy-Kissing, Hugging, caressing, acutally beside the intimacy of mutual understanding, where is the real intimacy? The physical intimacy can not eliminate the wall between the spiritual world of yours after all,and understanding is the only bridge between souls that communicates two otherwise unrelate exi the current are connected,it can bring a light to dispel the darkness,in the light, we can see everything clearly,and when there is a connection with existence,it is connected to a spiritual light source,bring us the inner light,in this light,you see it clearly,you know him,he knows you,and through your understanding of him,you know yourself better,When a person is understood, when a person knows himself, he is not alone. Even he is loneliness,he does not feel lonely,there is a person who knows him, knows his heart and can not see where he is, and is with him.

當(dāng)你懂他之后，依然癡心不減，你的癡情才會變成款款深情。

After you know him,you are still infatuated,and your infatuation will become a deep effection.

所以什么叫作深情？你了解他是個(gè)什么樣的人，你愛的就是這樣一個(gè)他；你了解他最真實(shí)的樣子，你愛這個(gè)真實(shí)的他。你見過他最美麗的時(shí)候，也見過他最糟糕、最丑陋的時(shí)候；你見過他最能干、最得意的時(shí)候，也見過他最失落、最狼狽的時(shí)候。在他最失落、最狼狽的時(shí)候，你還是想擁抱他，你還是愿意接受這樣一個(gè)他，還是想吻他，并且去愛他，你真的懂他，懂他是個(gè)怎樣的人，懂他的好與不好，懂他那些和你不一樣的地方，懂他很不完美，但你還是愛這樣一個(gè)不完美的他，愛他這個(gè)真實(shí)的不完美的人，這個(gè)才是真正的深情。

So what it is call effectionate? You know what kind of person he is,you like such of him,you know his truest look,you love this real him. You have seen him in the most wonderful time,the worst time, the most capable and proud time,the most frustrated and lost time,you still want to hug him,you are still willing to accept such a person,kiss him,love him, you really understand him,know how is he,understand his good and bad,know something different from you,know he is imprefect,but you still accpet such a imprefect person,it is really effectionnate love.

最后我們來講講愛情的第三大元素——踐行。

Fanlly we talk about the third element of love-action

一個(gè)人心里總是有一片很深的善意，但他卻從來不把它落實(shí)為行動，那就不是真正的善。同樣，如果一個(gè)人空有愛心，空有愛意，卻從來都沒有踐行，沒有愛的實(shí)際行動，那也不是真正的愛。

There is always a deep goodwill in the person's heart,but he never implement it as action,that is not true goodwill. Similary, if a person just has

love,but never practice,without action of love,that is not a true love.

比如，我經(jīng)常對你說“我愛你”，我也覺得我真的很愛你，但是我從來不愿意跟你同甘共苦，也從來不愿意為我們的愛情而戰(zhàn)斗。當(dāng)愛情出現(xiàn)挫折的時(shí)候，我腦子里經(jīng)常想的是放棄——放棄這段感情、放棄你。這就是我所說的，空有愛意，卻從不踐行。這種情況，在日常生活中也挺多的。

For example,I ofen say I love you,I think I really love you,but I never willing to stick with you through thick and thin,and never willing to fight for our love. When the frustration is appeared in our love,my mind is always give up our relationship,give up you,it is what I say,just empty love but without action of love. In this condition,there is also a lot in daily life.

還有一種情況，我覺得我很愛你，我是如此地愛你，深刻地愛你，所以我常常情不自禁地說“我愛你”，但是我對你保留了最多的秘密，我對你最不坦誠。這也是空有愛意，卻從不踐行。

Another situation, I feel I love you very much ,love you deeply,so I can not help but say:"I love you",but I have kept the most secrets for you. It is also empty love without action of love.

還有一種情況，我說“我很愛你”，但是我從不認(rèn)真聽你的傾訴，從不想要深刻地了解你的心事。在我作任何重要決定的時(shí)候，我想到的只有我自己，我很少真正為你著想，很少把你放在我人生計(jì)劃的重要位置……這也是空有愛意，卻從不踐行。

there is another situation,I say I love you,but I never listen to you when you are confiding,never want to know your mind. When I make a important decision,I often just thinking about myself,seldom thinking about you,I rarely put you in an imoprtant position in my life. It is also empty love,without action of love.

所以，對于真正的愛情，踐行非常重要。你愛我是吧？你要對我好是吧？你要給我幸福是吧？那就說到做到！Just do it！重要的不是說，而是真正有所行動。不是當(dāng)你說出“我愛你”這句話的時(shí)候，愛情就終結(jié)了，“我愛你”只不過是愛情的開始，重要的是接下來你要有愛的行動。愛的行動，才是愛的證明，沒有行動，一切都是空洞。所以真正的愛情，就是你要真正為對方著想，真正給對方時(shí)間與關(guān)懷，很多時(shí)候，他的利益就是比我的利益更加重要，這才是真正的愛情。

Therefore, for true love, action of love is very important. you say you love me? you want to be nice to me? want to give me happiness? Then Let's do it! just do it! what is important is not to say,but to acutally act.It is not the end of love when you say you love me,it is just a beginning of love,The important thing is that you have to act with love. the action of love is the proof of love,without action,everything of love is empty,so the true love is that you really want to think about each other,give each other time and care,in most time,his benefit is more important than mine.This is true love.

總結(jié)三大愛情元素，看上去好像彼此獨(dú)立，但其實(shí)是環(huán)環(huán)相扣、缺一不可的。愛情是全身心的，激情、理解、踐行——“激情”意味著我愛上了你，“理解”意味著我懂你，“踐行”意味著我愿意陪你一路同行，不離不棄。只有當(dāng)這三者合并在一起，才叫全身心，只有這三個(gè)要素都存在的時(shí)候，才是所謂:“我愛你”。

Summarizing three elements of love,It seems that they are independent of each other,but acutally they are coherent and indispensable. Love is wholeheart ,passion,understanding,action. Passion means I love you, Understanding means I know you, action means I am willing to accompany with you,never give up. Only when these three elements are merged together is the whole heart, only when these three elements exist,it is called I love you.

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