主題：In some countries，the role of a mother differs In some ways from the role of a father . why do you think these differences exist？how might parental roles develop in the future？在一些國家，教育孩子的父母角色，在很多方面都不一樣，為什么會有這樣的差異，將來父母的角色會發(fā)生什么變化？

英語：

concerning with paternal love And maternal love，we often feel the difference，different countries ' background . in the

So in this article，we are going to talk about how the role of a mother differs in some ways from the role of a father and how might parental roles develes

The love of father is like a mountain，deep and stableThe love of mother is like water，soft and delicate。

a father is normally using his virtues such as power fulness and respons ibility to education children and he is usually full of creations . a motheen erren

In China，there Is a famous variety show called dad，Where are wegoing . fathers alone shoulder the respons ibility to take care of the childree

' what is the advantage of fathers ' caring？

First，F(xiàn)ather ' s love is interesting . there is a dad named wan Li in Nanjing who paints 15 portraits for two daughters in 3 years . the girls are vers

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Second, father can adjust children’s bad behavior in a tremendous way. A father named Chris Illuminati in New Jersey, USA, has a brilliant idea to stop children playing too much with digital devices. He says, “Never take technology away from your kids as punishment. Instead, just take away the chargers because it is so much crueler.”

Third, fathers’ advantage of strength can play a great role in taking care of children. He can lead children to do moresports activities and teach them what bravery is. As to newly born babies, a dad can bath them even better than mothers. More important, fathers should make a pleasant environment for mothers to take care of babies. For example, let mothers feel safe, do more household work and help balance relationships with mothers-in-lawor baby sitters. This point is mentioned in a famous psychology book Babies and Their Mothers by Donald W.Winnicott which will also lead to the next part—mothers’ significant role.

To begin with, mother’s role cannot be replaced when a baby is born. The most important period of an infant is the first few months. So Donald W. Winnicott mentions that a mom just needs to do two things well. One is being a good-enough mom. The other is holding as much as possible. Why should things be simple? Because moms often take too much pressure and worry about doing things a little bit wrong, they are easily to be unhappy. That’s too bad. So just obey the basic two rules and do things by observation and instinct.

Next, mothers’ delicate care is precious to children whenever how old they are. We are touched by mom remembering our taste and our slight requirements. Mothers help children to do decisions such as what classes to take, and also comfort and communicate with them in significant situations such as criticized by teachers at school.

Finally, we gain power and attitude from moms. They teach us how to deal with relationships. Their practice and attitude towards both work and families help us grow up. Their wisdom keeps with us in a lifetime.

Now the trend is families having fewer children than ever before. It is partly due to the material life but more about the reason that fathers and mothers are too careful to raise children. The future trend will be more like things happened in the Nordic countries. Fathers cannot be free from taking care of babies. The corporation of fathers and mothers to raise children is a certain thing. And there will be multiple methods for that cor matter fathers or mothers, the people who can take care of children better will take the job. Hope that we can be really relaxed to figure out our talents and confident to be a parent as learning basic principles well.

中文：

說到父愛與母愛，感覺上是很有差異的。不同的國家可能情況也不同，像東亞國家，父親傳統(tǒng)上照顧孩子比較少，父愛更隱形一點，母親承擔的育兒壓力比較大，責任重要，事無巨細。北歐國家可能父母雙方的照料更平衡一點，這種觀念也越來越廣為傳播。

所以，本文接下來就分析分析父愛母愛的差異，也來探討未來父母的角色會如何變化。

父愛如山，深沉穩(wěn)重；母愛如水，溫柔細膩。

父愛整體來看，是用力量、責任等好的品質(zhì)來引導(dǎo)孩子，讓生活充滿創(chuàng)意。母愛在嬰兒期很特別，給孩子的是細心的照顧還有溫柔的感情。

中國有個很火的綜藝節(jié)目，《爸爸去哪兒》，很多人愛看是因為傳統(tǒng)上看不到多少爸爸帶孩子的經(jīng)歷。中國的文化傳統(tǒng)是男主外，女主內(nèi)，但是隨著時代的發(fā)展，主觀上爸爸們意識到參與孩子的照料是很有意義、很幸福的事情，客觀上全靠母親來照料現(xiàn)在很難，夫妻雙方都需要上班才能掙到夠生活的錢。

爸爸帶孩子有哪些好處呢？

第一，爸爸的愛經(jīng)常很有趣。在南京，就有這樣的一個爸爸，名叫萬里，他用3年時間為兩個女兒畫了15幅肖像畫，記錄下了孩子成長的瞬間。畫中的女孩們美極了。她們自然可愛的表情和動作被永久記錄下來。同時，這也啟蒙了她們的藝術(shù)天賦。

第二，爸爸糾正孩子的不良習慣，用得方式很妙，美國新澤西州的老爸Chris Illuminati對于糾正孩子玩電子產(chǎn)品，有著搞笑又有獨到的見解。他說：“不要用沒收電子產(chǎn)品作為對孩子的懲罰；你只需要拿走充電器就好了：沒電，才是真正的懲罰?！?/p>

第三，爸爸體力的擅長可以給孩子帶來很多方便。他可以帶著玩更多的體育活動，教會孩子勇敢。爸爸照顧嬰兒的時候，洗澡甚至可以洗得更好。還幫助媽媽營造照顧寶寶的良好環(huán)境，比如讓媽媽覺得安全，多做家務(wù)，幫助處理好婆媳關(guān)系或者和保姆的溝通。這在《嬰兒與母親》這本溫尼科特寫的著名心理學書籍中有提到。接下來就說媽媽的重要作用。

首先，在孩子剛出生的時候，媽媽的作用是無可替代的。嬰兒出生后最重要的時段——頭幾個月內(nèi)，溫尼科特提到，最重要的有兩點，一是做“足夠好的媽媽”，二是多去“抱持”(就是抱著)。這么簡化對媽媽的任務(wù)是因為她們往往會覺得自己不能出一點錯，有時候會給自己壓力大，不開心。所以掌握最基本的兩條原則就好，更多的是觀察和母性的本能就可以把孩子帶好了。

其次，母親的溫柔與體貼，無論孩子成長到多大，都很有意義。我們都喜歡媽媽對自己的很細微的照顧，媽媽會記住自己可能隨口說的特別細小的要求。飯菜記得自己喜歡的口味，花心思幫助孩子決策，比如比較各種輔導(dǎo)班；還在重要的時刻和孩子談心，比如在學校被老師批評的時候。

最后，媽媽是我們溫柔力量的源泉。媽媽教我們處理人際關(guān)系，媽媽對待工作和家庭的態(tài)度幫助我們更好地在社會上立足。媽媽的智慧伴隨我們一生。

現(xiàn)在有的趨勢是家庭里生孩子越來越少，確實有客觀的限制，但也是父母都對自己要求比較高的原因。未來的趨勢是會像北歐的風格，父親不承擔育兒責任的時代會過去的，越來越是父母雙方的配合，而且多元的方式會更增加。喜歡、適合照料孩子的父親或者母親都可以去完成自己的理想。希望更多的人能夠放輕松，同時把握好最重要的原理，有信心做父母。

（圖片來自網(wǎng)絡(luò)，萬里給他的女兒畫的兩幅畫像）