最近和我喜歡的前男友和平分手了，理由也和題主差不多，因為兩個人在一起太累了，為了彼此而消費。

唉……可能是因為我們太年輕，沒有學(xué)會怎樣相愛吧？

現(xiàn)在我們已經(jīng)平穩(wěn)度過了痛苦期，和題主分享一點經(jīng)驗吧。

在分手之前首先要考慮清楚雙方是不是真的沒有信心走下去了？如果有的話，建議不要分手，否則這是一件抱憾終身的事情。想要達成這個目的，首先需要雙方進行充分的交流。

在這里特別提醒：一定要是兩個人在一個正式場合坐下來開誠布公地把你們所遇到的問題和想法全部說明。

如果問題解決，那更好。但倘若兩個人還是堅持要分開的話，那就要進行第二步了。

第二步，雙方要互相考慮清楚以后的關(guān)系定位。究竟是做朋友，還是老死不相往來？當(dāng)然做出這個決定，可能需要一定的緩沖時間，這個步驟千萬不要心急，要給自己也給對方留出一個空間緩沖，以圖將雙方的傷害降至最低。

還有最最最最最重要的一步，那就是姐妹，你一定要學(xué)會珍惜你自己，正視你的價值，不要輕易地因為一段感情的失敗而否定自己。也許雙方在這段感情中真的都存在一些問題，那么在分手之后，希望你們都能做出一些反思和成長。如果他沒有反思和進步，我希望我們有。

Recently, I broke up with my ex boyfriend amicably for the same reason as the topic, because it is too tiring for two people to be together and it will be a drain on both of them.

Alas...... Maybe it's because we're too young to learn how to love?

Now that we've made it through the ordeal, let's share a bit of experience with the subject.

Before breaking up should consider clear both sides to go down without confidence really? If so, it is recommended not to break up, otherwise it is a regret for life. In order to achieve this goal, first of all, both sides need to have full communication.

A special note here: be sure to sit down with two people in a formal setting and open up your issues and thoughts.

If it's solved, so much the better. But if the two of you still insist on separating, then step two comes.

The second step is to consider each other's future relationship positioning. Should we be friends, or should we not see each other again? Of course, this decision may need some buffer time, this step should not be rushed, to give yourself and the other side to leave a buffer space, in order to minimize the damage to both sides.

There is the most important, the most important step, that is sisters, you must learn to cherish yourself, face up to your value, do not easily because of a relationship failure and deny yourself. Maybe you both had some issues in the relationship, and after the breakup, hopefully you can both reflect and grow. If he doesn't reflect and improve, I hope we do.